Did you know that not forgiving yourself or another causes you stress and effects your health? Every time we think of those who have transgressed against us, our body responds. Blood pressure and heart rates go up while facial muscles tense and stress hormones rise. Chronic stress weakens the immune system and overworks the cardiovascular systems predisposing you to illness.
Forgiveness reduces stress by replacing negative emotions with positive ones. Breath deepens and the parasympathetic nervous system sends soothing chemical through the body to keep it relaxed and strong. Research suggests that when married partners don’t forgive each other for past hurts, they are less able to manage conflict in the present. Apparently adults who can’t forgive their parents for mistakes may unconsciously transfer their anger to their spouses!
Scientific studies link the act of and benefits from forgiveness with reduced blood pressure and stress hormone levels, less pain, reduced depression and anger, relief in sufferers of chronic back pain, fewer relapses in women in substance abuse programs, as well as fewer symptoms of depression and stress.
Although forgiveness is an act that will help you heal, have you ever said, “I’ll forgive, but I won’t forget!” Would you rather carry around grudges, unwilling to write them off until you have the love, apology, caring, or approval you think is owed to you? When you act this way, you hurt your emotional health by constantly reminding yourself of how others have failed you and what they owe you.
“Forgiveness is letting go of all hopes for a better past.” Dr. Gerald Jampolsky
The past is past, yet you may be driving yourself into despair and anger because you can’t undo what was done “back then”. You keep those wounds open because it validates your feelings when others notice how you martyr yourself. Try to become aware of how much energy it takes to keep your anger going, and how it depletes you. Think about how good and how light you will feel when you release the other person from your frustration.
Once you are ready to forgive, make a list of people in your life, past and present, who have not lived up to your expectations, or those you are still angry with. For each name, write the specific deed or situation that you have not forgotten or forgiven. When you are ready to let go of the old grudges, choose one name at a time and practice the mindfulness approach.
Even though I have not been able to forgive you for ____________, what happened is over and I can’t go back in time and relive it the way I wish it had happened. I am choosing to let it be history and get on with my life.I choose love and see you know as a friend surrounded in the same light of truth as I am with our Higher Power beside us" Just imagine you both in a circle of golden or white light with the presence of your angels ,guides or healing powers surrounding you.
Next take a few moments to notice exactly what you wished the desired outcome was you had hoped for in the situation you were involved in. Take a good look at this and ask ”If I didn’t have this wish or desire for things to go this way, based on my beliefs and standards, would I be upset? ”If I had accepted that what was, was and without judgment would I be upset? This is called the correction process to realize it is ONLY our wishes and desires of how we demand and expect things to be that create our separation instances and thereby stress and dis-ease.Once discovered you ask your Higher Power in whatever form or belief you have about this,to join you and take these grievances and purify them. You may have to use other forgiveness tools to face and embrace and deposits of anger,rage or hatred which are buried in the body before you can really clear these issues. Many Bioenergetic techniques are excellent for this. These are integrated in the 7 Keys as important components of the forgiveness process which is based on Quantum Embodiment, a collection of methodologies which provides the tools and techniques to face, embrace, trace and replace blocks in the emotional body
Your final task is for you to forgive yourself. Write down all your mistakes and look prior to making them as to what your reason was for doing so. What beliefs did you hold about needing to be right, be special, be in control or perhaps get what you wanted? This is where the real deep work occurs as you clear away the roots of the wrong-minded thinking, which led to the wrong-minded actions. This brings you to the level of cause and not caught in the effects.
Illness and disease can miraculously reverse when forgiveness is used to a;; areas and time periods of a persons life. I have seen spontaneous remissions of cancer,reversal of heart disease and even growths in the body dissolve and disappear. The symptoms of ADD/ADHD,depression and anxiety improve so rapidly when forgiveness is done fully and correctly people feel like huge weights came off their shoulders and a blindfold taken from their eyes as they see things in a clear and peaceful new light. This is the purpose of Key Six.
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